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He Enters Gently: A Reflection on Being Truly Cherished
Valentine’s Day can be beautiful — and lonely. I remember what it felt like to be married and alone. And I learned that being chosen for a moment is not the same as being cherished without condition.
stephaniearje
Feb 152 min read


When Wounds Become Weapons
Leadership doesn’t mean we’re fully healed. Often, God uses influence to reveal what still needs surrender. The safety of the Church depends not on perfection, but on tender, obedient hearts.
stephaniearje
Feb 113 min read


Anger is Sometimes Grief
Anger is sometimes the language grief uses when love feels threatened. This reflection explores how grief, surrendered to God, can move us to clarity and recovery—not panic.
stephaniearje
Jan 312 min read


Personal Responsibility Without False Guilt
In the wake of church leadership failure, questions of blame and responsibility surface quickly. Drawing from Ezekiel 18, this reflection explores the difference between false guilt and true responsibility—especially for those shaped by emotional abuse and generational patterns.
stephaniearje
Jan 264 min read


Quiet Lessons of Abandonment
Abandonment doesn't just break your heart - it teaches you. This reflection explores how loss, silence, and betrayal shape us, and how God gently tends wounded hearts over time.
stephaniearje
Jan 192 min read


You Are Seen
You’re not too sensitive. You were wounded. And now, you are seen. A gentle reminder that God has always known, loved, and held you.
stephaniearje
Jan 161 min read


Absalom: The Overlooked Pattern
We are quick to label manipulation in the Church—but far slower to recognize the quieter pattern of Absalom. This reflection explores how offense, influence, and accountability intersect in leadership, faith communities, and beyond.
stephaniearje
Dec 30, 20253 min read


Breaking Patterns of Emotional Abuse: Choosing the Freedom of Truth
Many of us grew up thinking dysfunction was normal. But healing begins when we break agreement with familiar patterns of emotional abuse and choose the freedom of truth. This is the journey from survival to peace, from old roles to a new way of living.
stephaniearje
Dec 11, 20253 min read


Understanding Generational Healing & Surrender
When a parent heals but the child still hurts, it creates a tension that only Jesus can hold. Healing is possible across generations—but every heart must choose that path for themselves.
stephaniearje
Dec 3, 20253 min read


Letting Go in Love: How God Heals the Places Where Parenting and Pain Collide
Letting go in love doesn’t mean giving up. It means trusting God to heal the places where parenting and pain have collided. This reflection offers hope, clarity, and gentle wisdom for parents navigating old wounds and generational patterns.
stephaniearje
Nov 26, 20253 min read


PART 1 — The Silent Wounds of Parenting from Pain
Parenting from guilt, fear, or silence can quietly wound our families for years. In this reflection, I share what God showed me about surrender, wisdom, and healing these generational patterns.
stephaniearje
Nov 20, 20254 min read


When Crushing Becomes Revelation
In seasons of crushing, it’s easy to question everything—our identity, our discernment, our calling. But even in the silence, Jesus walks beside us, just as He did on the road to Emmaus. This meditation on Isaiah 53:5 is for anyone piecing together what life has shattered.
stephaniearje
Nov 20, 20252 min read


The Perfect Storm
painful family moment became the catalyst for clarity and healing. When God allowed the “perfect storm” to surface old wounds, He also asked me one question that changed everything: “What would you have done differently?”
stephaniearje
Nov 18, 20251 min read


He Did Not Absorb Rejection: Finding Freedom from Shame, False Responsibility & Cycles of Pain
Isaiah 53:3 reveals a freedom most of us never learned to walk in. The commentary on this verse in The Passion Translation footnote reads: “ Jesus was the most emotionally whole and healed man to ever walk the earth. He did not absorb the insults and rejections of even his own neighbors.” That statement went straight to my heart. And what I heard the Holy Spirit whisper in response was this: “You are not damaged goods.” If Jesus—fully human, fully feeling—could walk through r
stephaniearje
Nov 17, 20252 min read
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